Making Love After Childbirth – Considerations For New Dads

Making love after childbirth can be a tricky thing, and many new moms aren’t ready as soon as new dads are. It’s important for men to first understand the many physical and psychological reasons a woman needs to wait, and then to learn how to make the experience as comfortable and enjoyable as possible once the time comes. Compassion, patience and expressed love are crucial at this time in a couple’s life. A man may need to practice male organ care in the form of a little more self-pleasuring during this time, but he can rest assured that, if the situation is handled respectfully, his intimate life will return soon enough.

1. The fear of pain is real. Whatever kind of birth a woman has – natural, assisted natural or C-section – she is susceptible to postpartum pain, particularly during penetrative activity. This pain can present for weeks or even months.

It’s not considered safe for women to make love for the first two weeks after any form of delivery; the body needs to recover, and she may be bleeding during this time. Making love while bleeding can increase her risk of infection. If she delivered naturally, her organ needs to recover; if she had a C-section, her abdominal wound needs to heal. Six weeks is the generally administered advice for waiting, but she may need longer.

2. She may not be in the mood for a while. There are a number of reasons that a new mom may not be feeling frisky, and they don’t have anything to do with her attraction to her partner. One reason is hormonal: Women have less female hormone available within the first four to six weeks after delivery, and for the duration of time they breastfeed. This can cause dryness in her female organ as well as loss of sensual drive.

Also consider the exhaustion she must be feeling. After nine months (give or take) of carrying around a baby in her belly, then going through childbirth, she is taking on the demands of parenting a newborn (as her partner is as well). She may have absolutely no energy available for making love at this time.

3. She may not be feeling good about her body. Body self-consciousness is highly common among all women, but perhaps more so among those who are pregnant or have just given birth. Her body is changing rapidly; if she’s breastfeeding, it’s also in high demand as essentially a food source for another human being, so she might be feeling a bit like her body isn’t hers anymore.

4. She may be depressed. Postpartum depression can be severe, and can easily impact her desire. It’s important for a woman with this condition to have a good support network, and for her partner to be a part of it.

What Can a Man Do?

First, being fully supportive and accepting of his partner’s limitations around making love is crucial.

To combat pain when lovemaking is resumed, men should have on hand plenty of lubricant and should assume positions that won’t put pressure on her sore spots (such as spooning if she had a C-section). If it turns out she’s still too sore, offer to provide manual or oral pleasure instead.

To help her feel better about her body, remind her of the amazing feat it just accomplished – bringing life into this world. Appreciate her body – provide intimate touch (if she wants it): cuddle, caress and kiss. Show her that you cherish her, inside and out.

Finally, guys can do themselves and their lovers a favor by maintaining excellent male organ care during their lovemaking hiatus. Along with relieving sensual tension on his own, a man can start using a male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) to give his lady something special to come back to when she’s ready. A crème with Shea butter acts as a great moisturizer, while vitamin A helps fight unwanted odors that may be present. Healthy male organ, happy male organ.

Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving organ sensitivity and what to do to maintain a healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men’s health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.

Global Protection of Your Trademark

Does your business have a specific trademark? If so, you should know that it may be vulnerable overseas. While your business may have established protections within the United States, someone in another country could potentially use your trademark if you are not careful.

A trademark can be a symbol, phrase, word or design. If your company’s brand can be extended to other countries, you may want to consider filing a trademark outside of the U.S. to protect your rights to the particular brand.

With the growth of online trade and social media, businesses have become increasingly global. As a result, it is important for a company to control its brand on an international level. However, protecting brands in the global market can be difficult.

In the U.S., trademark rights are based on use. Specifically, if you use a trademark without registering it, this action creates rights to brand. To register your trademark with the United States Patent and Trademark Office, you must show actual or planned use of the specific brand. If you do not plan to use the name, the Trademark Office will not permit registration.

Conversely, trademark rights in many other countries are based on filing. In other words, if you are starting a brand in the U.S. and plan to extend it globally, you have to register your brand abroad. If you do not, another person can control your U.S. brand in another country.

Many businesses register their brands in major countries around the world. It is also helpful to register your brand in any country where your company is engaged in business. You should file your trademark in the U.S., and then register it in countries that are important to your business. This can be done through the country’s Patent and Trademark Office; however, it may help to have an attorney facilitate the process.

If you are interested in filing your trademark in various outside countries, you have additional options. For example, you can apply for international registration, which is a multicountry filing application that encompasses 86 countries. The bundle includes the most industrial nations in the world. To do this, you file your trademark in the U.S. and subsequently extend the filing to international jurisdictions. There is a filing fee in each country; however, overall, this option is relatively inexpensive and administratively easy.

Filing for global trademarks can be crucial to your business. If you allow others to register your brands abroad, you risk diminishing it and limiting your chances of global expansion. Therefore, if you are considering filing a trademark, you may want to consult with an experienced trademark attorney. A lawyer can help you protect your rights to a specific brand.

Article provided by Erik S. Syverson
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Overcome Fear

Are you looking to overcoming your fear of public speaking, fear of flying, fear of heights, fear of driving or fear of failure? Learn how to overcome your fears by understanding the process of fears forming in your mind and techniques to beat your fear.

Which is stronger, the power of the will or the power of the imagination? Most people think the will is stronger, but anyone who has had the experience of being overcome by fear would answer “imagination”.

Fear is the negative effect of imagination and can occur spontaneously, and against our will. We can all experience different fears in many different ways, yet there is a common factor behind most of our fears – the way they are formed. Fears can be resolved.

Common Fears and Phobias

Here is a list of most common fears and phobias that people experience. Do you have one of these fears that you are looking to beat?

Driving phobia
Fear of being alone
Fear of clowns
Fear of commitment
Fear of crowds
Fear of death
Fear of driving
Fear of dying
Fear of failure
Fear of flying
Fear of heights
Fear of public speaking
Fear of rejection
Fear of speaking
Fear of spiders
Fear of the dark
Fear or phobia of dentist
Stage fright

The Process – How Does Fear Begin?

We are aroused by only two sensations, pain and pleasure. We all want to avoid pain and pursue pleasure. The emotional cycle which leads to fear begins in the present with our initial experience of pain or pleasure, and ends up with complex feelings which are “remembered” exclusively in the past. This cycle of emotions has been found by psychiatrists to follow the following pattern:

Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety or fear.
Unexpressed anger, redirected against ourselves and held within is experienced as guilt.
The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.

“Hurt” is stored because the body retains a primitive subconscious ability to remember every incident that it experiences. This is called conditioning and it is part of the way we learn. These “hurt memories” do not usually form part of our everyday conscious awareness, but in fact our current action is influenced by hundreds of thousands of them! This primitive subconscious ability will remind you of a particular “hurt memory” through your feelings. Some childhood memories may be very painful and difficult to recall and may therefore be repressed.

If we encounter an incident which hurts us (slipping on a step while high on a ladder), and if we are unable to adequately understand, resolve or communicate our feelings about this incident, then it is automatically stored in the subconscious mind. If we then encounter the same or a similar incident (leaning over the edge of a tall building) at a later date, this “hurt” is automatically “recalled” by our subconscious mind. We are reminded that this incident is responsible for a “past hurt” through a change in our feelings. We will begin to feel uncomfortable, nervous, anxious, dizzy, weak. ,We may experience headaches, nausea or even complete paralysis. In some cases these symptoms can be experienced by just thinking about the situation!From this example it is apparent that three skills must be learnt to overcome fear:

Firstly, a method of releasing or handling the subconscious “hurt memories” which have been stored.
Secondly, developing self-confidence to deal with the actual situation which triggers the fear.
Thirdly, developing new responses to express the emotions that are felt when the situation recurs.

In the Life Skills Seminar, overcoming fear is dealt with by teaching and practising:

The conscious ability to relax and release stress any time, anywhere.
The ability to focus the mind.
The ability to neutralise and reprogram subconscious “fear memories”.
The ability to develop mind/body exercises to overcome fear.
The ability to develop greater self confidence to experience the situation which is creating fear.
The ability to program new responses to express emotions in that situation to overcome fear.